tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post3801947256712248091..comments2023-10-09T09:59:53.356-07:00Comments on Ruthibelle: Dear Daddy Dearest,ruthibelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14478877906463303463noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-32078892045131240142008-10-30T15:04:00.000-07:002008-10-30T15:04:00.000-07:00Long, I really appreciate those words of wisdom. T...Long, I really appreciate those words of wisdom. Thanks much!<BR/><BR/>lol@m chickkkruthibelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14478877906463303463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-82144848268035979622008-10-20T13:16:00.000-07:002008-10-20T13:16:00.000-07:00Ruthibelle - so many of us have written these lett...Ruthibelle - so many of us have written these letters, knowing we needed to say what we felt, but that we were never going to send it. I suspect that if you give your father this letter, he is going to be totally crushed. Because, no matter what you say and how lovingly you put it, he is going to hear and interpret it as "she doesn't need me anymore; what is my purpose now that she doesn't need me to watch over her?" His whole identity and notion of being a father is wrapped up in being the "daddy" and you being the "girl". If the "girl" disappear or changes too quickly, "daddy" is going to be on rocky ground. He already knows in his head what you are trying to say; its just not what he's feeling. So, like you intimated, just humour di man fi now; mek im talk an fa'as inna yuh bisness an' gi directions an what not; den just do wha' yuh was gwa'in do anyway. That way, everybody happy, right? I'm glad you seem to have a healthy relationship with your parents. I'm not putting unfair pressure/value on your relationship with your father by saying its special because so many people don't have it; I'm saying treasure it because good, wholesome relationships with anybody, including relatives, are not easy to sustain.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-83123816278871682792008-10-19T21:49:00.000-07:002008-10-19T21:49:00.000-07:00Sounds like you have a caring Dad but it sounds li...Sounds like you have a caring Dad but it sounds like he is scared, like most Dad's can be, of what happens when their little girls grow up. He will come around eventually. Just remember, as much as you want your freedom, its just as hard for him to give it. <BR/><BR/>I feel sorry for my daughter because I already know what she is going to have to go through with her Dad! :)<BR/><BR/>Good luck!Just Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062762585224798388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-73096887451577964862008-10-15T10:44:00.000-07:002008-10-15T10:44:00.000-07:00yeah. I know right!yeah. I know right!ruthibelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14478877906463303463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-56619181294801076682008-10-14T09:29:00.000-07:002008-10-14T09:29:00.000-07:00All the best with that :-)All the best with that :-)laroper18https://www.blogger.com/profile/08342621208093303886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-60949669036218008832008-10-13T13:22:00.000-07:002008-10-13T13:22:00.000-07:00the "good" ones, huh? Well that just sucks!! But l...the "good" ones, huh? Well that just sucks!! But like I said, since this isn't really that huuuuge a deal, I'll just stick it out till 45 or so, by which time, well, you know, daddy still clinging would be a little less than impractical... (and highly disturbing, lol)ruthibelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14478877906463303463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-36999620149749714862008-10-12T17:19:00.000-07:002008-10-12T17:19:00.000-07:00LOL! Seems that most good parents have a hard time...LOL! Seems that most good parents have a hard time letting go! Hush.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10349121245969250053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-50272902226758527352008-10-12T15:09:00.000-07:002008-10-12T15:09:00.000-07:00Ruthi...I thought this letter was from My daughter...Ruthi...I thought this letter was from My daughter to HER father! You said everything with grace and love......Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06245554563405436101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-47237816369119053622008-10-10T18:14:00.000-07:002008-10-10T18:14:00.000-07:00once a daddy's girl... you better believe itonce a daddy's girl... you better believe itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-80807286300090939292008-10-10T18:11:00.000-07:002008-10-10T18:11:00.000-07:00once a daddy's girl... you better believe itonce a daddy's girl... you better believe itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-53379980839096522792008-10-10T13:19:00.000-07:002008-10-10T13:19:00.000-07:00lol@jackie. Delivered?? LMAO. Crazy, crazy, crazy....lol@jackie. Delivered?? LMAO. Crazy, crazy, crazy. I'ma stick this out til bout 45...<BR/><BR/>kalonje, what you mean my daddy wont see this? You know I got that big ole stubborn streak from him, right?? If it was a megahuge deal, he'da known a'ready! But, as things stand, i'm just being a little miss priss!!<BR/><BR/>@tia: i frequently say, not to brag or anythin (lol), i have the ebst daddy in the whole world... hands down! Luv him. But word to describe daddy sometimes: overzealous.<BR/><BR/>He means well, but lawd sometimes I just gotta shake my head, smile and shush.ruthibelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14478877906463303463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-58711176601313002132008-10-10T13:15:00.000-07:002008-10-10T13:15:00.000-07:00Awill: aaah! fathers and tehir girl children is ri...Awill: aaah! fathers and tehir girl children is right!<BR/><BR/>@mike/abeni: ohmigosh I think you're right. And I'm starting to recognise that. I'll just hafta live with it or work my way around that (minus the live-in-that-parish part, cuz that's not hapnin).<BR/><BR/>@lucy: it doesnt <I>hurt</I> at all. More like annoys every now and then... the day I wrote this was one of those days...ruthibelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14478877906463303463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-53243537171922930962008-10-10T12:17:00.000-07:002008-10-10T12:17:00.000-07:00Me have a feeling your daddy will nary see this on...Me have a feeling your daddy will nary see this one, hehe :D<BR/><BR/>But G is right. Seriously, you lucky to have your daddy, even if tham man do scare the bejesus outta we!<BR/><BR/>And everybody make a good point. This is a reasonable letter. You have a reasonable father... let him know... and then let we know how it goes, lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-79069422068154176812008-10-09T23:38:00.000-07:002008-10-09T23:38:00.000-07:00Very nice! It's not mean or harsh. Your daddy so...Very nice! It's not mean or harsh. Your daddy sounds like a great father/husband, be thankful to God for him.<BR/><BR/>Are you really gonna give it to him or just venting?Tia's Real Talkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12549106444031149802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-86390414867586904562008-10-09T18:15:00.000-07:002008-10-09T18:15:00.000-07:00So, um, have you delivered this? Will you? Iffing ...So, um, have you delivered this? Will you? Iffing and butting about it? It sounds reasonable to me, and it might to them too, I don't know. Have they seen your blog? Or maybe you should have the heart to heart (read face to face)with them?J.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13528069268393747601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-47435255481106194412008-10-09T15:46:00.000-07:002008-10-09T15:46:00.000-07:00Girl,this is one thing that hardly ever changes bu...Girl,this is one thing that hardly ever changes but hopefully it will get betterAbenihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08560160141820956066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-73844926761542746502008-10-09T12:49:00.000-07:002008-10-09T12:49:00.000-07:00Ruthie, I wish I had a daddy to fawn over me. U're...Ruthie, I wish I had a daddy to fawn over me. U're one lucky girl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-1202002619209094192008-10-09T11:27:00.000-07:002008-10-09T11:27:00.000-07:00You can forget about that jack, once daddy's gil a...You can forget about that jack, once daddy's gil always daddy's girl, he might give you a break but believe me it will only be a break.clnmikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14823690965555263694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-83063131241807534372008-10-08T19:44:00.000-07:002008-10-08T19:44:00.000-07:00Ruthi! some things will probably never change! it ...Ruthi! some things will probably never change! it hurts, yet, the good news is the more rope you give your daddy the longer rope you'll find with others.<BR/><BR/>i can't say i have any experience with this. yet, your daddy sounds like he's trying to only find the best. a guy unable to persevere with your father would probably not be able to persevere with you!<BR/><BR/>i like the quote:<BR/>"...but some things can only stay in the heart."<BR/><BR/>no truer words spoken. Surely your father will have to come around! and knowing you, you'll find the guy who will wait till your father realizes "daddy's little girl is all grown up."<BR/><BR/>in the mean time keep doing Ruthi!Wutheringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03626296751779121395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-199219112825484518.post-20914920424872298482008-10-08T19:39:00.000-07:002008-10-08T19:39:00.000-07:00*grin*ahhhh fathers and their girl children... i'm...*grin*<BR/><BR/>ahhhh fathers and their girl children... <BR/><BR/>i'm a guy and my dad still calls me every night to find out if i'm ill, poor or suicidal... it irritated me in my 20's, but now that i'm in my 30's i find it strangely comforting... it's always nice to have someone unconditionally on your side...Willhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16682875292578124481noreply@blogger.com